‘Roaching’ is the crass new trend to plague the dating world
Like the evil namesake insect, the act of “cockroach” draws its strength from numbers.
The latest granny dating speech is here, defining a courtship phenomenon that is sadly so common it’s inevitable – much like the infamous cockroach itself.
What is called “roaching” refers to hiding the fact that you are seeing several people from a new romantic partner. While the new mate may realize that his partner has other lovers, it only becomes a cockroach when he “realizes that there is, in fact, numerous»Other lovers, according to Exclusive Matchmaking CEO Susan Trombetti. “It’s inspired by seeing one of those nasty little bugs – but knowing that when you turn on the lights, there’s a lot of it. “
Guarding isn’t about cheating per se, but being purposefully opaque about your sex life – and there are some telltale signs of that, the latest in a long line of dirty dating trends.
“You can tell if you are the victim of a cockroach if you have the impression that the person is not really available or present for you, and very discreet about certain details” Ok Cupid dating coach and facilitator of “The Dates & Mates podcastDamona Hoffman told The Post. Roaring red flags include new partners who take a long time to respond to texts, change plans at the last minute, and don’t drop out if you call them out of the blue, Hoffman says.
“They’ll be very protective with their phone and won’t keep it connected to their car or have their notifications turned off, so there’s no chance you’ll see them appear on the screen,” Hoffman told The Post. “Dating will always start and / or end at someone’s house – sex will be or be at the center of all your dates because that’s all they want.”
However, the gig usually doesn’t last too long: cockroaches, Hoffman said, burn wildly but quickly.
“People who treat dating apps like their own personal candy store can only keep the momentum going for so long. After a while, they will slip, burn out or catch feelings, ”she explained.
The good news is that, as the pandemic slowly abates, there are plenty of fish in the sea – which means more potential matches (albeit as well as more potential cockroaches).
“Now that COVID-19 vaccines are widely available in the United States, our research has shown that more and more singles are looking to make up for lost time: whether it’s meeting new people, having sex or forming intimate relationships, which can result in dating and sleeping with several people, ”Alanna Lauren Greco, buzzassociate director of editorial content, told The Post.
And as obnoxious as its name may be, the cockroach at least serves as a positive reminder of the importance of being transparent and communicative in relationships.
“’Roaching’ reminds us to prioritize safe sex and to have open and honest conversations with our partners about our expectations and preferences,” said Greco. “Some people may not care how many partners the person you see is sleeping with, but if you do, you should feel empowered to share your boundaries and prioritize your needs. “